Sometimes, when i go to a big event I notice this strange feeling of wat i can only call desparation. there is a shadow neediness in the air- a sense of fear, struggle and grief. I call it the drag. The ‘drag’ is what pulls you under, takes you away from yourself and tumbles you around and around until you no longer know which way is up. When you are in the drag you know about it, because you find yourself clutching at straws, chasing the next buck, changing your mind and reversing decisions (ouch for your money karma) and tearing around working lots but not ever really making progress. ‘The drag’ is literally when you are out of alignement with yourself, and swimming against the tide- it’s exhausting and miserable with no relent!
‘The Flow’ however is an altogether different expereince. in the flow you just need to let go and enjoy the ride. The right people show up at the right time, coincidences abound, you feel safe and happy and the right words seem to flow from you, your energy feels high and you vibrate at a frequency attuned to the breath of life- with joy and inspiration. When you step into the flow you allow your life to float downstream. You make time for God, for Source and you sit in the sun of your own being. you make decisions from your inner knowing and you don’t look back, knowing that you are the powerful creator of your own life and standing up for what you know and believe.
So how do we step in to that magical flow? Well, it’s really all about your inner alignment. i am constantly telling my clients that success is an inner game. You need to have your ducks in a row internally and not shy away from the deep work that comes hand in hand with your wake up call to be all you can be. the deep work can sometimes be a bit yucky and feel very uncomfortable, but inside all of us is just a lonely, wounded child who want and needs to be loved and loving. So here are 3 quick tips to help you step into your very own flow:
1. Listen. Put simply if you are in ‘the drag’ you’re ignoring your inner voice and looking outside yourself for answers, and if you are in the flow you make time to honour and trust your own feelings and desires and impulses without making yourself wrong.
2. Stop. If you know you are in ‘the drag’ the only way to get out is to simply stop what you are doing. literally stop everything. Make some time and space to step back and really look at what’s not working. Some thing needs to change- what is it?
3. Ask. The consequences of being in the drag can be pretty murky and dark, we might be in a right old mess and really need some help to tidy it up. Get support and ask for help, you can’t do it all alone, so ask your seen and unseen supporters to help you see your path and move back into that space of grace where you can fly again. It’s ok, you can do it.
Sometimes, when I go to a big event I notice this strange feeling of what I can only call desparation. there is a shadow neediness in the air- a sense of fear, struggle and grief. I call it the drag.
The ‘drag’ is what pulls you under, takes you away from yourself and tumbles you around and around until you no longer know which way is up. When you are in the drag you know about it, because you find yourself clutching at straws, chasing the next buck, changing your mind and reversing decisions (ouch for your money karma) and tearing around working lots but not ever really making progress. ‘The drag’ is literally when you are out of alignement with yourself, and swimming against the tide- it’s exhausting and miserable with no relent!
‘The Flow’ however is an altogether different expereince. In the flow you just need to let go and enjoy the ride.
The right people show up at the right time, coincidences abound, you feel safe and happy and the right words seem to flow from you, your energy feels high and you vibrate at a frequency attuned to the breath of life- with joy and inspiration. When you step into the flow you allow your life to float downstream. You make time for God, for Source and you sit in the sun of your own being. you make decisions from your inner knowing and you don’t look back, knowing that you are the powerful creator of your own life and standing up for what you know and believe.
So how do we step in to that magical flow? Well, it’s really all about your inner alignment. i am constantly telling my clients that success is an inner game. You need to have your ducks in a row internally and not shy away from the deep work that comes hand in hand with your wake up call to be all you can be. the deep work can sometimes be a bit yucky and feel very uncomfortable, but inside all of us is just a lonely, wounded child who want and needs to be loved and loving. So here are 3 quick tips to help you step into your very own flow:
1. Listen. Put simply if you are in ‘the drag’ you’re ignoring your inner voice and looking outside yourself for answers, and if you are in the flow you make time to honour and trust your own feelings and desires and impulses without making yourself wrong.
2. Stop. If you know you are in ‘the drag’ the only way to get out is to simply stop what you are doing. literally stop everything. Make some time and space to step back and really look at what’s not working. Some thing needs to change- what is it?
3. Ask. The consequences of being in the drag can be pretty murky and dark, we might be in a right old mess and really need some help to tidy it up. Get support and ask for help, you can’t do it all alone, so ask your seen and unseen supporters to help you see your path and move back into that space of grace where you can fly again. It’s ok, you can do it.
You will need- pen, paper, calendar, day book/timetable, list of all your upcoming dates/projects
Plot your calendar with what you know you are committed to for the year in pen
eg. Kilimanjaro climb, Isle of Wight Festival, Ellie’s Wedding
Then take your pencil and plot what you would like to do
eg. courses, training, trips, my own event
Make sure to mark out time off and holidays at the beginning of the year, you don’t have to know yet what you will do in that down time, just that it is marked out for you now.
Set your intentions and some bold goals about what 2010 is about for you.
KEY POINT: *Decide and commit to working in your Gift Zone*
Your Gift zone is the area where you use your unique talents, passions and experience to serve yourself and others by sharing yourself, love and time.
Ask yourself…”Who do I want to help most this year and why do I want to help them?”
Be very specific, and have a why that makes you totally excited and uplifted!
Value your time above all else- your time IS your life.
With that in mind list below some things you hate doing, stuff that wears you out, drains you, isn’t in your strengths at all or plain bores you -
i.e. Ironing
Chasing clients for payments
Scheduling appointments
Admin
Cleaning
Techy stuff- creating websites and adding shopping cart
Post and errands etc
You can outsource to a VA, who can handle admin,
A web technician- to set up your sites and payment gateways,
Writers if that isn’t your thing (try www.elance.com)
Find a local cleaner/house help
Along with a local student who wants to make a few extra pounds a week and will walk your dog or take stuff to the post office, do shopping, take in dry cleaning etc- anything you don’t love to do that is not best use of your time.
(Hint- Do you notice any feeling coming up here? resentment, guilt, shame, disbelief?If so, Can you identify it, feel it and ‘go into it’- you may need to momentarily exaggerate it to move through it- so if you feel guilt about not doing everything or hiring help- recognize and honour that feeling, and then ask yourself I you’d be willing to let that go if it means that you get to be all you can be. Heaven and Life want to support you in your mission, you are a leader and are allowed to ask for/receive help and support in all ways.)
(- Try posting on college/uni notice boards or on www.gumtree.com/craigslist or hire a PA who can come to your home and just keep on top of all the officey/organisation stuff.)
Live in Your Gift Zone!
****There are people out there who just love to keep things organized and are really in their gift doing that kind of work- let them help you!****
You have to trust that the money you pay them will be re-couped as you work in your gift zone, just do it a step at a time.
Now list stuff you really want to do this year
Everything you can think of! This might include being great at your roles- as a mother, wife, friend, daughter. It might include business goals, humanitarian goals and personal health / lifestyle goals.
Review the list, and anything that is a ‘should’ or makes you feel heavier and not inspired/excited or not from love in your heart- simply cross off. Now ask yourself “What would I really love to do this year?”
Chunk it down to stuff you want to do this month
i.e. Get some more speaking gigs booked
Finalise details for retreats & schedule all clients
This means that instead of darting around, a call here, an email there, and a blog post there -you are focusing on repetitive actions – which speeds up your productivity.
You might be working on 2 or 3 different projects, but you’d still do the calls in your calls time block…Make sense?
Think of it like a production line- in terms of grouping like tasks together, so you do all you calls at the same time, even if one is for project A, one is project B and one is the bank or whatever, like tasks go together. You can take an hour on a Sunday or Friday to plan your coming week.
Now look at your working week- decide what times would be best for you to do each of your chunks. Some chunks are daily, others weekly or monthly. Maybe your calls are bi-weekly, your coaching Tuesday and Thursday, your finances Friday, and writing mainly every fortnight~ or whatever.
Some of these tasks, like Email will be daily, but make a boundary by just doing email, say from 2-3 each day instead of it dominating your whole day- you can also have an assistant handle a lot of your email and you just see the stuff they forward to you, and they give you an update frequently.
Note: -
If you are doing your own email I wouldn’t recommend checking email first thing- use that time for something more creative like writing, sales copy or creating your next product, otherwise you can check email and start your day bogged down and purely responsive and reactive…. rather than channeling your time and energy towards your goals and priorities.
So, look at your to do list and group all the tasks and decide which chunk they are. Now, get your daybook and colour each time block a different colour. Then when it comes to the calls chunk you set your timer for however long you scheduled (I like 90 minutes) and do all your calls without interruptions.
Apply the same method to emails, writing, etc.
Final Tips
If you are thinking of outsourcing and building a good tram around you this year so you can play bigger and be more fully in your purpose then why not Manifest your ideal team with a brain dump of must/must nots for your PA, techy etc.
Finally- have your top wishes for the year written down on a piece of paper by your bed and review them first and last thing. (Big tip!)
I have a few female role models and I’m pretty sure they are Indigo
They include Angelina Jolie- she doesn’t hold back, she loves passionately, speaks eloquently and is just the most gorgeous sexy undefinable woman- she takes all those stereotypes of women – whore, mother, crone, maiden, etc and becomes all of them and none of them. She was destructive when she had no purpose, because inside her spirit knew it was here to make a massive difference. A defo indigo trait in my opinion!
Dolly Parton
Paris Hilton (this woman receives compliments better than any woman I know and has taught me to smile and say thank you rather than deflecting compliments- she is also a savvy business woman behind the sunnies and the peroxide- like Dolly, she knows how to establish a brand, create a persona and work it!)
Linda Macartney- what a pioneering visionary amazing lady.
These women followed their passions, love like mad and have a bigger purpose- I know Dolly prays all the time and had early flushes of faith like I had as a child and that they all really care about people & animals.
They aren’t afraid to be sexy, wild and feminine and don’t try to be ’spiritual’ they just live like women in full using the gifts God gave them to follow their highest calling.
As a women who loves people and is also crazy enough to believe she is here to help with the re-balancing & healing of our beautiful planet I have (after years of trial and error) eventually landed on a ‘business’ that works for me. I work best with people and now do intuitive counselling so I can use my gifts in a way that feels ‘real’ to me. As a teen and in my twenties I’d be offered jobs in sales all the time because I have that whole ’speak to anyone with my heart open’ thing -
that a lot of Indigos have….BUT i never ever wanted to ‘turn that on’ just to put cash in the bank for a business that wasn’t helping people and the planet.
So that is why I went solo. I also had a knack of being able to ’see into someone’- I didn’t go do a course because there is no handbook for what I do – it’s a gift, not anything to do with initials after my name (although I do have that stuff)
Now I tithe to www.pachamama.org and really love being in business for myself.As a woman i tend to focus more on the intagibles than a guy in business, (love, service, sharing community)I had to train myself to couple that with the tangible and get to grips with the tangibles- (money, taxes, sales). As a female I had to consciously decide to think about the money and I have had some horrible scary financial moments before learning how to charge, receive and value myself. I am still working on this all the time, but at least I am no longer shying away from it all together!
Even when times were hard financially my faith never left me because I knew eventually that I would find a way, and the picture seems to get clearer all the time. I think it’s a bit like tuning in a radio or telly- the picture comes into view but starts out kind of fuzzy- you keep backing and to-ing until you see what you like- and then you get to live it….Crystal clear picture and in surround sound.
My trip to the Amazon last year taught me the real ‘Law of the jungle’ and to me, the reeal law of business in the new paradigm – one of inter-connectedness, sacred reciprocity and true balance and co-operation.
I Love what I do and encourage everyone to follow their hearts and make a living from their love- whether that is expressed through business, professional service, public service, whatever. We all have a part to play and are a unique piece of the puzzle- It’s going to take all of us showing up to complete the picture on the front of the jigsaw which shows a healed, happy, loving , healthy and harmonious planet.
I’m excited about 2010- it feels so good already.
My plans include taking a group to the Amazon with the Pachamama Alliance to work with shaman and experience the rainforest and indigenous Achuar tribe who are the natural inhabitants and custodians of the land.
Closer to home I’ll be working intimately with some small groups, (Pearl & Golden) doing more readings/ intuitive one-to-ones and be doing workshops in the UK (where I live) – to stay informed and get a free subscription to my monthly newsletter simply click here
The biggest thing about being in business for me- and the one tip I would give any female Indigo that wants to work for herself from her heart, make a difference and get paid for working in her gifts is that you have to know your worth.
I think how much money we make comes down to self- worth in lots of ways.
The key thing every business needs is the area I struggled most with – that was ’selling.’ Gosh, even the concept felt aggressive, manipulative and just wrong. I had to find ways to think that made me not only feel that it was ok, but that it was in fact part of my spiritual, sacred service.
I had to reconcile the masculine energy of going out there and ‘closing the deal’ with my feminine energy that just wanted to love everyone and give it all away boundlessly forever! Trouble is, that makes as much sense in business as standing on the corner handing out 100 dollar bills.
Now I feel I have integrated both the Divine masculine & feminine in a way that works for me. The masculine energy implements and backs up the ideas and wishes of my divine feminine, and things feel so much more balanced and effortless!
I am happy to share here in the hope it helps you business/self-employed gals out there struggling with this-
If I know I can help someone, they need help to make a decision – That is the key. What I realsied is It is up to ME to convey the value of what I do so they can make their ‘Yes’ or ‘No’ an informed one.
I come from a place where I am devoted to helping someone who is thinking about working with me decide from their knowing- BUT I am not attached to whether that is yes or no, just that it’s not a ‘maybe’ – i.e.one more fuzzy thought for them to hang on to and keep them more stuck, still not taking action, being in confusion and not fulfilling their potential.
If they are ‘maybe’ I haven’t done my job of communicating the value I can provide. If working with me is the difference between peace in their lives, happiness in their work and more joy in themselves to share with their families then I am doing a disservice to them by not adequately expressing that. Once I have then they may feel it’s not right for them, or they might decide to go for it, either way, I trust it’s perfect.
I ask God to send me the people I am supposed to work with, I ask him to clearly show what’s really going on and how I can best serve. Sometime I intuitively feel that “nope, this is not my ideal client”. When I get a hit like that I will still hope to add value by recommending an alternative resource that I feel could help them best, so I might just recommend a book or whatever I feel intuitively to say and then wish them all the best- it’s not about ‘getting the sale’ it’s about serving from faith & the knowledge that there are plenty of people that I am a perfect fit for and those are the ones I want to work with as I can do most good with them! *(I work with lots of Indigos, but rarely attract other types as they think I am a total woo woo space cake )
So far all my relationships have been so richly rewarding. Regarding boundaries I probably do get closer to my client than a guy would, but I can’t fight my nature- I have tried that and it doesn’t work for me. I am really into protecting my energy and clearing space now that I interact with so many clients and go so deep- Boundaries are an ever evolving issue that I am much better with now. It really helps to have an assistant who can help you maintain the distance (and an egg timer so you don’t run over the time you are hired for )
It will probably mean I get stung in business more than some more ‘alpha’ types but I have strong intuition and usually know intuitively when it’s better for me to not work with someone. I hope this helps any theta male or female Indigo types and I really encourage you to go for your dreams and make that difference you know you came here for.
Ask God and the angels to help show you clearly the way and you’ll see the path unfold before you!
Running The Edinburgh Marathon for HOPE for children
Helpoing to raise $50,000 in 3 days for The Pachamama Alliance
Quitting drinking & smoking and starting to exercise
Investing & Believing in myself and my business (despite everyone thinking I was nuts ) BIGGIE
Connecting, Learning and listening to my higher self, guides and angels & trusting my intuition more each day!
Helping others to experience true freedom- spiritually, financially, emtionally & physically by helping people with addictions, blocks to abundance, overcoming the fear of living in their gifts & fulfilling their highest vision.
Increasing my income 10 fold in 3 years doing something I love
Completing my first book and selling it online
Showing up as my true self despite sometimes feeling vulnerable or afraid of what others may think
(I just realised how little my degree in formal’ education’ actually meant to me)
Top Lessons of the decade:
Be grateful for everything
I’m a spiritual being having a human experience and I create my life
It’s OK to feel what I feel and know what I know
Opportunity comes in the disguise of crisis sometimes
Value yourself & your time- you never get it back
Nurture yourself and take time for you in silence each day- even for just a few moments
Fear is part of the journey of the powerful creator
You don’t have to be perfect to be valuable & to serve
Share your gifts with love
Trust God/Life/the Universe to bring you your highest good
Impact:
Helped hundreds of people to overcome their addictions and re-purpose their lives to get their gifts out and overcome fear and self-doubt.
Helped a dying man at the scene of an accident
Inspired people from all over the globe to live more authentically and follow their dreams
Raised $8,000 in an hour & $50,000 in 3 days on separate occasions for the Amazon rainforest
Transformed my life and became more conscious about my personal responsibility to all living things
Things that made my heart sing!
Backpacking in Australia, Malaysia & Europe solo and with a galpal- discovering about myself, life 7 the Universe
Meeting people and hearing their stories, seeing their gifts and sharing
Visiting Equador with lynne & Bill twist and experiencing shamanic healing, ancient all night ceremonies and the unspoilt beauty of being deep in 5 million acres of prime virgin rainforest
Swimming eye-to-eye with wild dolphins and being in a pod of 80 ish dolphins for over an hour on the solstice of 2009 in Hawaii’s big Island- A life-long dream!
Signing my emails to my beautiful clients “With love and blessings” (Another dream come true for me!)
3 things i’ll be leaving in the noughties
‘Needing’ acceptance, approval or ‘to be liked’
Holding myself back
Fear of failure/criticism
My Soul Success Statement is
My version of true soul success is waking up each day and thanking my creator for my life. It’s being able to look in the mirror as I brush my teeth and love myself just the way I am. It’s sharing that love with every other being whether silently in my heart or through the vehicle of my business, expression or presence. Success is being here now, and accepting myself and others without judgement, blame, criticism or fear. Success in my life is being free to be who I am, speak my truth with love, and to give the best of me in all I do. I am success. I am love. I am abundance.
Today’s tip is all about what your best year ever really means
for you. Obviously the best year ever will be comprised of
the best months ever which are made of the best days ever.
So let’s start there- what does the perfect day look like?
If you haven’t considered that you may want to jot down
some ideas about what you think, do, say, contribute, experience
create and feel on your best day ever?
Yesterday we talked about crafting your ‘Purpose Punchline’
Today let’s nail your ‘Soul Success Statement’.
Many people define their success on stuff that, ultimately,
doesn’t fulfill us as human beings. If there is one thing I have
learnt in the last decade it’s that money doesn’t equal happiness,
money equals money- which is the oil for the engine of what we want
to do. Happiness= happiness whether rich or poor- but I digress…
Money is something for a whole different chat and I’ll
be discussing it more in depth tonight on my free “Abundance
& Success Teleclass” where you can learn my top 5 tips to
expanding your abundance- but for now I want to stay focussed and help you to
define what this next year, and decade is all about for you
personally.
This simple exercise to uncover your “Soul Success Statement” will
help you so much with setting your intentions and plans for 2010 because
it enables you to focus on what is really important for you and your Spirit.
So here’s where to start:
Grab a fresh piece of paper or a new doc and write your name and
then ‘The Best Of’ at the top. (hint- set your intention to experience a
breakthrough in doing this exercise!)
Underneath you’re going to create some lists that review the last
decade and prepare you for writing your very own Success Statement.
The first list is your top ten achievements in the last decade-
this might include things like getting married, having kids, qualifications,
initiatives- or you might choose to focus on your way of being and internal
victories that you have made or things you overcame and made you a better,
stronger person.
The second list is the top 10 things you learnt in the last decade
This is fun because you get to learn at the feet of the master that
is you (Like my friend Joan Ocean says- GURU= Gee, You Are You) So write
your ‘master list’
Finally, List 5 Things you did that made an impact and 5 thingsthat
made your heart sing in the last decade.
Optional extra- I also listed 3 things I would leave behind in the
noughties and 3 things I wouldn’t tolerate in the teenies. (Would you like to
see my lists? I have posted them on my blog and would love to see your lists if
they’ll go in the comment box- or simply email me!)
Now review these lists and take a look at your highlights. decide
what you want to see, do, be, experience more of and put it in your 2010
planner/calendar/ dream board.
Then you will have a good few ideas of what success means to you
and you’ll be able to create a Soul Success Statement that enables
you to experience success on your own terms every day.
Remember don’t compare yourself or your version of success to anyone
else’s- there are many flowers in the garden and all have
different purposes and unique beauty- Your version of success is
good enough…
And so are you- just as you are
I’d love to hear how you find this exercise, tommorrow I’ll share
the 2 biggest stumbling blocks and – paradoxically- areas of growth and strength
I’ve recognised in the last decade and I have a last big juicy tip for
you!
Meanhwile, write your ‘Soul Success Statement’ and ‘Purpose Punchline’
everywhere you can!
My Soul Success Statement:
My version of true soul success is waking up each day and thanking my creator
for my life. It’s being able to look in the mirror as I brush my teeth and love
myself just the way I am. It’s sharing that love with every other
being whether silently in my heart or through the vehicle
of my business, expression or presence. Success is being here now,
and accepting myself and others without judgement, blame, criticism or fear.
Success in my life is being free to be who I am, speak my truth with love,
and to give the best of me in all I do. I am success. I am love. I am abundance.
If you’re like me you’ll be sitting down before the New year officially begins and making a bit of a PLAN that includes what you want to be do and have in 2010.
Trouble is most creative people really struggle with making a plan that doesn’t feel restrictive or somehow just can’t get round to it, so year after year they fail to really make the impact, income and inspiration they desire and deserve.
No worries, I’m helping you out over the next 3 days by sharing 3 simple steps that will help you plan your year and your business and be more clear, focussed and centred in 2010!
So keep an eye out for that, and let’s start right away with this big juicy conscious marketing tip:
Know what you really ‘do’. I mean the heart of what you do and who you are.
Do you know that yet?
Once you do your life will radically alter- you’ll effortlessly attract the right people to work with you and it will blow your mind!
I can remember sitting in so many marketing classes over the past 3 years where I felt there was a big disconnect between the ‘marketing gurus’ and heart centred or spirit led entrepreneurs or service professionals like us.
Because my partner’s business was marketing and copy writing I began to learn about getting a message out to many people from the ‘insider’ viewpoint.
But time after time, I would sit in a class surrounded by what I would call gifted souls- people who had ‘heard the call’ folks who genuinely cared, had huge potential and wanted to live life on their terms- and time and again I would see a huge mistake being made that was costing them dearly. Here they were, investing in and learning systems, strategies and tools such as writing great copy, using the web and direct mail- all valuable and important aspects of marketing- but of no use at all until you are absolutely crystal clear on the fundamentals:
In other words- You need to know EXACTLY what you REALLY do.
When I say ‘what you do’ I am talking about your unique gift- your piece of magic that you came to contribute. There is absolutely no point investing thousands into marketing if you still aren’t clear on your message and your value.
Until you know exactly what your value is your marketing is doomed to mediocrity at best. I’m going to share with you a big tip now that can add so much value to you if you ‘get ‘ this….
The big thing I learned in 2009 is to focus on the transformation you provide for others, not how you deliver it but the outcome you or your products/ services create.
Once you know that you must whittle it down to a single sentence no more than 15 words. Here’s an example: “At Bettermorphosis my ‘business’ is helping people get their gifts out in a way that improves their lives physically, spiritually and financially. “
A shorter way of saying this is “I help people to get their gifts out.” (You’ll notice that ‘Get Your Gift Out’ is also the name of my best-selling system that helps gifted individuals uncover and monetise their gifts so they can fulfil their soul’s potential and manifest their Highest Vision.
Oftentimes, when you really get to the heart of what you do it can make a great title!) To tell you more I’d let you know that once people understand and value their gifts they find that not only can they make an abundant living, but that they are more fulfilled, centred and authentic.
I could passionately talk about this for hours, so that in itself would do any ‘marketing’ or ’selling’ Do you see and feel the difference?
There is no sense of manipulation, of trying to ‘get people to buy something’ you are just clearly expressing your gifts and then, by Law of attraction you are able to help the exact people who need you in an effortless, natural way.
It’s truly a beautiful thing with no ‘ickiness’ or ‘hard sell’ that doesn’t honour that soft, divine feminine soul of your business. (whether you are a guy or a gal, my personal belief is that we all have masculine and feminine energy and that the part of you that creates and births your dreams is – you guessed it the feminine. the aspect that ‘makes it happen’ is the masculine- this is a whole other article!)
It’s never about the structure and the paper the words are written on, but about the way you convey your heart & purpose through the vehicle of what you do.
So now, how can you relate this to your business? Can you come up with your “Purpose Punchline” and add it to your social media sites, webpage and business card?
Next time you’re at a party and you are asked the dreaded- “So what do you do?” question you now have an interesting conversation opener!
The added bonus is you won’t be stuck saying “er… I’m a writer but I’m also a reiki master, intuitive counsellor and have an online business” which I was always stammering over in my early days… I never knew had to express what I did and would feel awkward and mis-represented whatever I said This way you have a clear, pithy message that will cover what you are really all about and what you mean.
To sum up: Now is the best time to find out what you ‘do’. Knowing this will not only increase your business, make you more focussed and effective, but it will also be a relief to have a reply that doesn’t make you cringe at your next party!
So get working on your ‘Purpose Punchline’ and let me know how this exercise goes for you.
Hint- if you are having trouble think of a client success story or someone you have helped- it may even be a friend or relative- what was the big benefit of what you did?
Maybe you helped them get out of their own way or overcome an addiction- perhaps you helped to make them look stunning or lose weight. Remember to stay focussed on the transformation- not the process you took them through to get there!
Lots of love & Blessings Katharine
P.S. If you enjoyed this and found it helpful you will just love my upcoming FREE call where I’ll be going into details on how to make a PLAN for 2010 and taking you through some simple steps for making 2010 your best year yet! If you are not yet signed up jump on this great gift now as spots are going fast! Here’s the link.
What is the difference between someone who is fulfilled, abundant and successful
in the truest sense, and someone who is depressed, unsatisfied, and living in scarcity?
The difference is whether or not they have uncovered their gifts and
found a way to do make a living sharing what they love.
The following 5 steps are to help you laser in on your God-given
gifts, and feel confident to share them with the World. I hope they help you, I
use them myself whenever I need some guidance.
1. Your Gifts Are Beyond Compare
You are not here to compare yourself with your neighbour, brother, sister
or best friend- or that person from the telly. What you have is uniquely
special, and you are here to make manifest the glory of You. no one else can
give what you can, and there is enough for everyone on this planet. So rather than
compare the way you look, speak, dress or anything else to others out there,
simply go inside and choose to love exactly who you are. god made you perfect,
and you are valuable & important. The World is waiting for you to share your gifts.
2. Your Gifts Are Beyond Criticism
Many of us grow up with a harsh critic inside of us telling us that it’s never quite
right, that something could be better or that it’s simply a load of crap. So, to
remedy that bossy inner critic (and worse still- the outer ones) you have to make
peace with it. Simply thank it for that opinion and continue to do what you know
makes you happy, uplifts others and makes you feel good- With no apologies,
no guilt & no explanations. Your not here to please everyone, or live up to the
World’s expectations, you are here to have a wonderful experience, learn, grow
and share the love inside yourself. In the face of the wonder of that mission, criticism suddenly loses its power. Hooray!
3. Your Gifts Are Beyond Your Ego
‘Edging God Out’ is the dampner on your gifts. The minute you become
attached to what others think, or question & doubt your magnificence
& the divine in you or compromise your gifts to try and fit some kind of mould
then you cut yourself off from your genius, and the song of your soul becomes
muffled. Simply remember ‘It’s not about me’. You are a vessel for the Divine
in you, the moment your ego wants to take all the credit you lose touch with the
Source, cut yourself off from the flowand become a stagnant puddle. Keep
your waters glistening and gushing by staying connected and giving all credit to
your Source, your real gifts come from way beyond what you or I can even contemplate.
4. Your Gifts Are Beyond Time And Space
When you are working in & sharing your gift is when you enter ‘the gap.’
You lose sense of time and even space, allowing your gifts to come through you as you dissappear and seem to be in a kind of suspended animation, humbled by the rapture and love in the Universe. Your age, looks, skin colour, size or weight don’t matter when you allow your gifts to shine…they make you immortal and everyone can feel their presence as something beyond our limited perception. The 90+ year old Compei Segundo from
the ‘Buena Vista Social club’ is a perfect example of this lesson. I remember late night
music fests with my father as we would watch the DVDs of Compay shuffling on to the stage- arthritic, hunched and slow, but the minute his fingers hit the strings of his guitar
out would pour his gift from the heart- his wonderful music that made him look
like a man of many years younger, and sound like the summer party in Havana just got started and he’d be the last to leave!
5. Your Gifts Take You Beyond Your Fear
When you allow your gifts to come through you, you feel alive- centred,
and a sense of peaceful exhilaration. Life just seems to open to you and
everything seems to vibrate at a higher level- it feels like YOU are giving ‘glory
to God in the highest’. You want to stay in this place forever!
I hope you enjoyed this article! If you’d like to discover your gifts
and find joyful ways to build an abundant lifestyle around them
then why not join me for a FREE transformational teleclass
Here’s a special clip of the great man himself in action at 90 years old!
right words seem to flow from you, your energy feels high and you vibrate at a frequency attuned to the breath of life- with joy and inspiration. When you step into the flow you allow your life to float downstream. You make time for God, for Source and you sit in the sun of your own being. you make decisions from your inner knowing and you don’t look back, knowing that you are the powerful creator of your own life and standing up for what you know and believe.
Angelina Jolie- she doesn’t hold back, she loves passionately, speaks eloquently and is just the most gorgeous sexy undefinable woman- she takes all those stereotypes of women – whore, mother, crone, maiden, etc and becomes all of them and none of them. She was destructive when she had no purpose, because inside her spirit knew it was here to make a massive difference. A defo indigo trait in my opinion!
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If you’re like me you’ll be sitting down before the New year officially begins and making a bit of a PLAN that includes what you want to be do and have in 2010.
